New Beginnings Therapy


The following is the excerpt initially published in March 2019

  Example 1: Deputy District Judge Anne Aitken [email protected] dropped her pencil down and directed a question at me: "so what do you do Ms. (now DR) Day?"  (Holborn Central Family Court January 2019)

"I'm a honorary staff counsellor working for an NHS trust" amongst other roles– I answered.

Deputy District Judge Anne Aitken non-curiously then assumed: “yes, but that is not a job in itself is it? – if it is honorary, you are not paid for it! ...And, as such, it does not count – that is not considered employment".

To all my accounts and within the totality of all my positions – which position in itself stands as an employment, too, but positively not convincing for DDJ Anne Aitken in trying to demean how I see myself or what I do as an actual fact, I was left with disbelief. As, by same reasoning follows that DDJ Anne Aitken is not much of a Judge on any, and all instances that does not involve her being actively present in her job, for instance if she is somehow asleep during such a conversation in High Court – because she certainly appeared to me asleep, rather than rude, arrogant, ill-mannered and quite stupid to out it plainly. But, maybe all such qualities are much required in her job and are indeed present within her rather then what may have appeared to me as outrageously stupid observation on her side, such opinion owed to my professional stance, non-judgmental nature, and eventually also to owed to my honorary position developed, too as an honorary staff psychotherapist for the NHS. Who knows? 

Well, I do.

I must have looked pretty puzzled for fractions of seconds for reasons quite obvious to me, and clearly not obvious at all to DDJ Anne Aitken. It truly felt as one decided to answer a quiz on: “What is your most valuable asset?"  and from possible answers:

1. Your brain; 2. How to use your brain; 3. When you are asleep;

 Clearly if we are to interpret DDJ Anne Aitken’s assumption on possibilities of 1 to 3, DDJ clearly is not feeling much of a Judge at all on all instances especially when a). she is asleep and b). any other instances when she is potentially not thinking – as it may have seemed in making assumptions about what may feel to one as a valuable role depending on whether or not one is receiving an income. Definition of honorary involving a conduct and a professional way of being based on and achieved on multiple and various accomplished criteria, including a skill in assessing for dementia, and/or early signs of dementia - that being a true dementia state exhibited by DDJ Aitken  behaviour during that instance and several of other moments. Also considering her retirement from her profession announced for November 2018 but continuing into 2019, if one is indeed using inference as a way of assessing a possibility, it looked even more so highly likely that a dementia diagnosis for DDJ Anne Aitken was highly present and probable at the time of discussion. Perhaps another assessment of that fact was long overdue, that being in my opinion, professional opinion, honorary and otherwise.

Some of the most encountered feelings experienced by atypical individuals or recognised as neurodiversity  are feelings born out of lack of being understood in various instances and situations.  Communication is key. In above example, there is a rhetoric about how a neurodiverse individual could experience and interpret such a communication. There is discrimination from the Judge at various levels and in many forms. A neurotypical individual would call to mind a form of harassment and bullying, but all in all there are in fact discrimination.

Example 2:

A barrister Katy Remsen from [email protected] seated next to me, elbows me with what appears a left wrist plastered- probably just before attending A&E another colleague decided she had enough, and I could clearly see as to why. Robust, mean looking and moment she opened her mouth, what came out sounded like a squeaking of an old shoe completely worn out and drenched: she is acutely observing her left – I – making notes on my phone and then ( I hope this is my imagination! )  she raises her only limb (fore) available (right hand) and addresses the Court:

Madam! I believe Ms. Day (currently DR. Day) is recording as she is using her phone!”

I were, indeed, making notes on my phone for I did not carry my notebook that day – but to my bewilderment – this Barrister – name [email protected]– for the sake of not being able to focus on making notes on her laptop ( she looked really not focused…), she brings herself to a theatrical manner to “report” me for some form of misconduct during a rather (possibly not for her) intense session of deliberation; me thinking to myself: now I do understand Parliament and all political reporting, much much better!

Responding to the Katy, DDJ Aitken then turns to me and mutters some ineligible warning about not using a phone during such proceedings. I, then, calmly explain that, and like everyone present, I am taking notes on a device much like a laptop and my actual phone is turned on silent – albeit obviously failed on being silent given that person to my right ([email protected]) and half able (mentally and physically) become suddenly preoccupied with where and how I record my notes. Needless to say because Katy was so acutely incapable to monitor her need to pee (urinate) – for which I could clearly smell it next to me and/or because some other difficult to assess in the moment need, such as a capacity to sit still.

I was not sure if laughter with all my might felt adequate, but equally a sense of: this is so Shakespearean in parts, except that Shakespeare really had very intelligent and a genius mind at work!

 I, watching the Judge and the Barrister performing, all I could see there were relics of stupidity at height so low down, that I could not be ask to locate it. Dungeon perhaps! And yet, there is something in that that I could identify: lack of coping and no control, resilience zero, power of adjusting and conduct negative.  If I were to compare that behaviour with anything in natural world would be someone needing the toilet so badly, but being quite so unware of who they are, they would request a break from next to them person right or left - without a doubt they will not know either way – and indicate that they believe the person next to them are in need for a break. Another alternative is what is presently reported in the media: ( about an addiction to painkillers; given that Kathy’s left wrist was plastered, it is highly possible that the barrister was overdosed that morning or all mornings for that matter. Such a fact in itself, would have explained conduct, smell, actioned behaviour and the overall presence look. All the above are quite frightful possibilities and yet, there are all asserted by I as positively possible based on given what had happened, reportedly.

Moving on from this example with a moral: always explain to a person that you are sitting next to, that you are using a phone and do explain what a phone is – in case they may need to be told: use drawing, Latin, colour, sand and any other potential form of communication such as a gesture of dialing a number to emergency services and use both American and British numbers. Fire Fighters, too. Anything would be better than letting them in their distress and wonder. Also, offer them water. Alternatively, do draw a sign of toilet and exit and direct them to it with arrows. Or ask the Judge to accompany them and then ask the Barrister to bring the Judge back – just in case toilet need and dementia do work hand in hand – because in this instance it really did, truly. The Barrister needed the loo and the Judge could have done with a walk even if to the ladies - if a sign post back would have been in place or placed.

Laughter is a mature form of defense in what is experienced as a challenging situation. The above example, calls in an  understanding in how communication and type of communication can and are experienced by a neurodiverse population. For some, particularly in ASD, sensory sensitivity and enhanced perception are key futures -  that is different from hypervigilance in scanning an environment. Hypervigilance is a feature of several conditions including anxiety, PTSD etc. There is also a question over comorbidity, with most neurodiverse individuals experiencing mental health difficulty as secondary condition. 

All in all, the above rhetoric illustrates a in difference* type of processing - a road map that is difficult to imagine and yet, much encountered in all my work with neurodiverse individuals. In above example, I take the stand and speak from that point of view. As a very fact I had experienced discrimination independently of all such added possibilities. The language used is a language of communication that is not perceived as kind or appropriate, but when is discrimination acceptable? The language is vulgar and tough because it overtly describes how discrimination and how a neurodiverse individual may indeed experience such a situation. Discrimination is a form of communication and how can one respond to that other than just illustrating how such a situation can also be perceived and detailed.

Example 3. Lead psychologist – not sure why he decided to show himself, but he did and by all mighty did he fail!

Whenever I tried to direct a question, he would say how severely attacked he felt by my questions, he clearly forgot to read the manual/ protocol on writing reports – ethically and morally or justice like...–

His name Lionel Bailey – an enormity of nobody – clustered in a broken glass mirror of psychoanalytical perspectives, defunct and errored like a shampoo formula for growing hair – in this case wrongly used to grow a brain function or functions such as neurons for distinguishing right hemisphere decision making from left language prone hemisphere. Did I get that right, Mr. Lionel Bailey? Let me know when you grow some hair, but not on your balls! We have already introspected and decided that you have none of either! – Which, it's OK. Unfortunately, it is too late for that to happen in the near future and, if you insist, in seeking such a complex dynamic, we can conclude that you have no chance. If in any doubt contact us via booking form and use a pen name. Don’t write on your balls to be reminded though, it may cause distress in searching– or so I’ve heard, especially if a (black) marker is in use.

Again, the above and final example is a high illustration on potential responses to discrimination - in the moment  - again the language is indelicate and suggestive and that is exactly how and what discrimination communicates. 

When one experiences discrimination they very rarely turn their head around and think to themselves: well, this is not the first time and how can someone can be quite so ignorant. No, what is experienced are feelings of hurt with a complex dynamic and recognising a repetitive experience. Feelings of hurt is an understatement. 

All above examples talk to an experience and this is how such experience can be described by both a neurodiverse individual and a typical individual:

After such experiences, I felt highly educated on an acute syndrome of lacking testicles coupled with defunct psychoanalytic rhymes, plastered and dozed barristers, witnessing stupidity ( inciting levels of Shakespearian laughter) from HM Judges and DDJ/s better seated on the loo - indefinitely that is - and watching out for toilet signs to not bump into the Judge whilst introspecting for hairless statements of crucial court experts.

But the above scenario is not a hopeless scenario after all, neither a  “ much ado about nothing” script; In the end my endeavor proved fruitful in that I cycled to the Court and was able to deduct all expenses incurred at nearby café, through my private practice and specifically a workshop on stress control and how to achieve  detachment from stressful events through compartmentalizing – having a good routine for last six years working in an honorary NHS setting. My consultancy experience had proved priceless –no pun intended!

In above script we are using a judge, law, justice system etc. to pinpoint potential neurosis to various angles and frustrations. Intolerance to stressful events and or decrease participation (sensory and otherwise) are possible responses across various conditions and also possible responses of any human being with or without a specific classification.

  Stress control therapy is an integrative perspective or strictly a CBT protocol (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) that can successfully target traumatic memories, stress induced in various situations and it does that by addressing matters of onset, traumatic memories and perceived experiences or situational incidents. Albeit not visible in above story there are unconscious biases that one can identify and exclude from interpretation – there are no criteria left out - and all form a composite of events and are addressed in reverse order as to how it was delivered with I  (Madalina Day) being the recipient. 

My personal affirmation also delivered as stress control in the NHS settings is that of observance, acute self-awareness and decision making as to what is next. 

Writing this it was my next for me, clearly traumatic memories at that time. What helped, was continuing applying theory in practice in all settings including the NHS for many months after that experience and in 2021 publishing a book about the NHS cases that I was working with as the above events were also happening. 

My only regret is that I cannot change language used to this page and better describe discrimination and in kinder terms. I have concluded that there are absolutely none available. Discrimination is horrible, horrific and out of line of being compassionate and/or human for that matter. But humor is human. M.Day, 2022 


Equality Act UK 2010

"Introductory Text

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1.Public sector duty regarding socio-economic inequalities

2.Power to amend section 1


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Chapter 1 Protected characteristics

4.The protected characteristics



7.Gender reassignment

8.Marriage and civil partnership


10.Religion or belief


12.Sexual orientation

Chapter 2 Prohibited conduct


13.Direct discrimination

14.Combined discrimination: dual characteristics

15.Discrimination arising from disability

16.Gender reassignment discrimination: cases of absence from work

17.Pregnancy and maternity discrimination: non-work cases

18.Pregnancy and maternity discrimination: work cases

19.Indirect discrimination

Adjustments for disabled persons

20.Duty to make adjustments

21.Failure to comply with duty


Discrimination: supplementary

23.Comparison by reference to circumstances

24.Irrelevance of alleged discriminator's characteristics

25.References to particular strands of discrimination

Other prohibited conduct



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28.Application of this Part

Provision of services, etc.

29.Provision of services, etc.


30.Ships and hovercraft

31.Interpretation and exceptions

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32.Application of this Part

Disposal and management

33.Disposals, etc.

34.Permission for disposal


Reasonable adjustments

36.Leasehold and commonhold premises and common parts

37.Adjustments to common parts in Scotland


38.Interpretation and exceptions

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Chapter 1 Employment, etc.


39.Employees and applicants

40.Employees and applicants: harassment

41.Contract workers

Police officers

42.Identity of employer




45.Limited liability partnerships


The Bar




49.Personal offices: appointments, etc.

50.Public offices: appointments, etc.

51.Public offices: recommendations for appointments, etc.

52.Interpretation and exceptions


53.Qualifications bodies


Employment services

55.Employment service-providers


Trade organisations

57.Trade organisations

Local authority members

58.Official business of members



60.Enquiries about disability and health

Chapter 2 Occupational pension schemes

61.Non-discrimination rule

62.Non-discrimination alterations


Chapter 3 Equality of terms

Sex equality

64.Relevant types of work

65.Equal work

66.Sex equality clause

67.Sex equality rule

68.Sex equality rule: consequential alteration of schemes

69.Defence of material factor

70.Exclusion of sex discrimination provisions

71.Sex discrimination in relation to contractual pay

Pregnancy and maternity equality

72.Relevant types of work

73.Maternity equality clause

74.Maternity equality clause: pay

75.Maternity equality rule

76.Exclusion of pregnancy and maternity discrimination provisions

Disclosure of information

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78.Gender pay gap information



80.Interpretation and exceptions

Chapter 4 Supplementary

81.Ships and hovercraft

82.Offshore work

83.Interpretation and exceptions

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Chapter 1 Schools

84.Application of this Chapter

85.Pupils: admission and treatment, etc.

86.Victimisation of pupils, etc. for conduct of parents, etc.

87.Application of enforcement powers under education legislation

88.Disabled pupils: accessibility

89.Interpretation and exceptions

Chapter 2 Further and higher education

90.Application of this Chapter

91.Students: admission and treatment, etc.

92.Further and higher education courses

93.Recreational or training facilities

94.Interpretation and exceptions

Chapter 3 General qualifications bodies

95.Application of this Chapter

96.Qualifications bodies


Chapter 4 Miscellaneous

98.Reasonable adjustments

99.Educational charities and endowments

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100.Application of this Part

Membership, etc.

101.Members and associates


103.Sections 101 and 102: further provision

Special provision for political parties

104.Selection of candidates

105.Time-limited provision

106.Information about diversity in range of candidates, etc.


107.Interpretation and exceptions

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108.Relationships that have ended

109.Liability of employers and principals

110.Liability of employees and agents

111.Instructing, causing or inducing contraventions

112.Aiding contraventions

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Chapter 1 Introductory


Chapter 2 Civil courts


115.Immigration cases

116.Education cases

117.National security

118.Time limits


Chapter 3 Employment tribunals


121.Armed forces cases

122.References by court to tribunal, etc.

123.Time limits

124.Remedies: general

125.Remedies: national security

126.Remedies: occupational pension schemes

Chapter 4 Equality of terms


128.References by court to tribunal, etc.

129.Time limits

130.Section 129: supplementary

131.Assessment of whether work is of equal value

132.Remedies in non-pensions cases

133.Remedies in pensions cases

134.Remedies in claims for arrears brought by pensioner members


Chapter 5 Miscellaneous

136.Burden of proof

137.Previous findings

138.Obtaining information, etc.


139A. Equal pay audits

140.Conduct giving rise to separate proceedings

140A.Extension of time limits because of mediation in certain cross-border disputes

140AA.Extension of time limits because of alternative dispute resolution in certain cross border or domestic contractual disputes

140B.Extension of time limits to facilitate conciliation before institution of proceedings

141.Interpretation, etc.

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Contracts and other agreements

142.Unenforceable terms

143.Removal or modification of unenforceable terms

144.Contracting out

Collective agreements and rules of undertakings

145.Void and unenforceable terms

146.Declaration in respect of void term, etc.


147.Meaning of “qualifying settlement agreement”


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Chapter 1 Public sector equality duty

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150.Public authorities and public functions

151.Power to specify public authorities

152.Power to specify public authorities: consultation and consent

153.Power to impose specific duties

154.Power to impose specific duties: cross-border authorities

155.Power to impose specific duties: supplementary



Chapter 2 Positive action

158.Positive action: general

159.Positive action: recruitment and promotion

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Chapter 1 Taxis, etc.

160.Taxi accessibility regulations

161.Control of numbers of licensed taxis: exception

162.Designated transport facilities

163.Taxi licence conditional on compliance with taxi accessibility regulations

164.Exemption from taxi accessibility regulations

165.Passengers in wheelchairs

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167.Lists of wheelchair-accessible vehicles

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170.Assistance dogs in private hire vehicles

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Chapter 2 Public service vehicles

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177.Approval certificates

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185.Annual report on exemption orders

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Chapter 4 Supplementary

188.Forgery, etc.

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190.Improvements to let dwelling houses

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192.National security


194.Charities: supplementary




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198.Abolition of husband's duty to maintain wife

199.Abolition of presumption of advancement

200.Amendment of Married Women's Property Act 1964

201.Civil partners: housekeeping allowance

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Civil partnerships

202.Civil partnerships on religious premises

EU obligations


204.Harmonisation: procedure


205.Crown application

206.Information society services

Subordinate legislation

207.Exercise of power

208.Ministers of the Crown, etc.

209.The Welsh Ministers

210.The Scottish Ministers

Amendments, etc.

211.Amendments, repeals and revocations


212.General interpretation

213.References to maternity leave, etc.

214.Index of defined expressions

Final provisions




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